People using interpersonal violence are overwhelming are men, and most victims are female. Nevertheless, statistics show a significant proportion of child victims of sexual and physical violence are male. These males report deleterious effects of complex trauma such as shame and suicidality across the life course. Most men who have experienced childhood trauma do not go on to use interpersonal violence, despite the impact of complex trauma. Recognising and addressing the past trauma of men who used violence is viewed sceptically. It is seen to diminish their responsibility, as well as ascribe women with the responsibility to ‘take care’ of these men despite their violence and dominance. These genuine concerns create somewhat of an impasse on how best to respond to male trauma without it being at the expense of women. At the same time the intergenerational nature of domestic and family violence and the differential outcomes amongst male victims has highlighted the need to consider male trauma in the solution to end gender-based violence. Approaches that take an intersectional and pro-feminist approach offer hope in ways that can address trauma impacts, well-being, violence cessation, and responsibility simultaneously. This presentation provides some examples intervention and prevention innovations that attempt to address these dual issues for men and boys.